LIFESTYLE, TRAVEL

CATCHING UP WITH LIFE FEAT. MISIBIS BAY, CAGRARAY ISLAND

Every working millennial would understand that “tired” is always a part of our existence. Behind our care-free life that we project is an ambition and willpower that burns inside of us. These usually fuel us to exert that extra effort in performing well in our jobs. However, our passionate minds and hearts may also lead us to be deprived of our personal time. It’s very inevitable especially when our capabilities are milked out like crazy to meet an urgent deadline.

When “beaching” is the perfect remedy.

My bff Joana (https://happyrabbittravels.com/) posted a write up regarding the same musings, and we usually talk about how we maintain the harmony of our personal lives. From the looks of it, she already found the right formula to balance her social and corporate life. In my case, no matter how hard I try, it seems that finding the equilibrium for these two is a huge challenge for me. There are just weeks where I would go without rest day to finish urgent matters in the office. Yes, my desk is clear but my head is cluttered. I missed my friends; lazy afternoon naps; and doing absolutely nothing. Just when you are on the verge of overheating comes my much anticipated 8 working day mandatory leave. The much needed hibernation took me to one of the most beautiful places in my hometown in Albay. I must admit that I am guilty on exploring only a few parts of the province despite jet setting to a number of places.

Sunny afternoon in Misibis Bay.

White sand at its finest.

My friend and I found ourselves in Misibay Bay Luxury Resort in Cagraray Island, Albay. After we arrange our stuff in our designated room, we immediately swapped our clothes to our swimwear and head to its famous white sand beach. The sun, the waves and the wind in our faces are the true therapy to combat the overflowing stress.

The feeling of lying down, facing the sun with the sand on your back stops the time like no other. A quick escape from the busy streets and skyscrapers brings an inner peace that melts all the restless feeling that has been accumulated all together. We never mind the burning sensation in our feet. All we care about is how we can make the most out of our time away from harsh reality.

After this short-lived vacay, it made me understood that there is nothing wrong if you allocate a spare time for yourself.  I still have this vacay-aftermath syndrome where I would crave for that pampered feeling, but I know it would be much impossible to have a weekly dose for such due to budget and scheduling concerns. Then again, weekends are there for a reason, and I just realized that I have to maximize this free time to be in the best shape the next working day. I will still render overtime in the future if its necessary, but I’ll make it a point to squeeze in some “me” time even if it is in a form of a long sleep, or a short adventure if possible. Being dedicated (or workaholic in some sense) to your profession is a thumbs up, for as long as we can draw a clear line from our lives within and outside our office.

Ben
GeekyBF.com

LIFESTYLE

THINGS I’VE LEARNED FROM ONLINE DATING

Photo by yours truly.

Establishing an online presence has opened a lot of new things for me. Aside from the opportunity in creative writing and photography, it has allowed me to expand my network and meet the influential people that I truly admire. Being single and loveless made me decided to also try finding true love in cyberspace.

I was one of those who installed those dating apps; spending most of my free time browsing the potential lovers, and diligently responding to the messages of those interested ones. It was really overwhelming to know that someone is really interested to view your profile and send you a message. Hopes were up since some of my friends were able to kiss the right frogs through dating apps/ sites and found their destiny.

To cut the story short, I was able to score couple of dates with some “interesting users”. Later on, I realized that the fun part is only in the beginning. Let’s just say, every date became a “charge it to experience” moment.

SHOWING YOUR TRUE COLORS

If he loves you, he will accept you as a whole and help you become the best version of yourself. However, if he will change you with his superficial standards as his main focus, then better ask yourself if you really want to be with someone like him.

EXPECTATION VS. REALITY

Hopeless romantics (including me) immediately draw stories and fall in love with that perfect imagination. After which, we heavily expect that this day dream would soon be a reality with this potential partner, whom we’ve only gone through a single date. If this doesn’t materialize, we end up heart broken in the midst of singlehood. So fellas, its better to set our eyes to the real world and manage expectations.

Vector and images are copyright to their respective owners. Digital art by yours truly.

READ BETWEEN THE LINES

The greatest sign that a guy doesn’t want to continue on the getting-to-know game is a sudden and unpredictable change. This is when his messaging habits gets limited until he stops and forget about you. In a blink of an eye, he became “busy” from unexplained stuff that extends beyond 24/7. It goes back to the old-age scenario of being awkward in bringing the bad news. Even if it is online, the jittery feeling of telling NO to someone interested in you is hard AF.

Remember, don’t ever waste your time chasing  them. Don’t boost their ego by begging for time, and making them feel that they are worth chasing. We are all grown ups and we don’t want to play childish guessing games. If someone wants you, he will ensure that you will be remember not just when he needs someone to talk to.

YOUR INSTINCT IS YOUR BFF

That whispers in the back of your ear are there for a reason. It’s not overthinking, its your common sense telling you that there is something wrong.

In relation to the previous item, your gut feel on his actions can sometimes tell you if he still wants to pursue you. Just be observant with actions or frequency on messages. He won’t tell it straight to your face (or app in our case), but his actions plus your gut feel will slap you for a wake up call. If that’s the case, then its time to pull the plug.

“LOVE YOURSELF” EXCUSE

One of the overly used term in the millennial world is now being used in the so-called blame game in dating someone you met online (or in real life). To cover up their indecisiveness and for them to dump you, they would usually reason out that “you have to love yourself first”. This is a nice way of saying that “you can have all your love back for yourself”. Most of the time, we tend to stop and ponder deeply if there is still lacking from within. This toxic people make you look like its your fault, when its their unsure nature is the real problem.

Let me tell you this, loving yourself does not necessarily mean that you have mastered loving others. If you can heal yourself alone, then consider yourself lucky. However, there are just situations that you need a loving partner to remind you that you are worth loving despite you being broken. From this, you can slowly eject the loneliness and make room for love. Little than you know, you have grown how to appreciate and love yourself from the support given.

Photo by yours truly.

LOVE IS BEYOND FILTERS

Online dating is synonymous to marketing yourself. As part of this strategy, we tend to post our best-angled shots, and sometimes rely on filters for a little tweaking. But its a different case when the person you are dating has only fell in-love with your images, not the real you.

To share my experience, I’ve gone through a date with douche bags values appearance more than anything. There were days that I was told that either I gained weight (with a brow raised) or  I looked skinnier. This usually became the topic of our convo, and it made me think twice if I still have to finish my food. After which, my stress-related breakouts would become the main topic. I mean dude who wakes up in the morning and walks around with a ring light in his face?  Dating them made me more self-conscious and down, knowing that my value is based on images. Later on, I realized that if that is their perspective, then they are free to print my photos and take those out for a coffee.

USER-FRIENDLY EXPERIENCE

We are not talking about the apps and sites here. The people itself ready to tap your photo are the issue. It may take someone to kiss a lot of frogs to find the right one, or others may find luck in the first tap. Online dating may open possibilities, but its does not guarantee that it will spare you from troubles and depression from dickheads. Just remember to be cautious and be aware of what you’ve signed up for.

 

Ben
GeekyBF.com

 

FASHION, LIFESTYLE

HER SMELL OF SUCCESS – SOLEIL ET LUNE

Photographed by yours truly.

Our history class uncovered to us that woman back on the early times have been treated as second-class citizens kept in silence. Oppression along with sexism has been the norm up until our sisters fought for change and equality. As the previous leaders were overtaken by a new generation, the old prejudice ideas have been overtaken with a new unbiased environment, slowly opening their minds into recognizing the voice of women. Being in the 21st century, we can see a huge leap from what it was before. Women nowadays are free to express themselves through opinions and personal style. They have promoted the idea of establishing an identity which is free from what the understatement that they have been told to before.

As a companion to her success and self expression, a dab and spray of a perfume has been a part of her weapon of choice. A fancy bottle can define and even become an extension of the person she is. For the modern day women, a scent is more than just smelling good. It is a sort of invisible accessory, awakening her alluring spirit and empowering the individual she wants to be.

With the willpower of femininity in mind, Ms. Kristine Dee and Elizabeth Supetran of The Beauty Mission introduced Soleil et Lune – a fragrance catered to celebrate the Filipina, complementing her exceptional beauty, freedom and aspirations. They also believe that women deserve to enjoy an everyday luxury, that is why they managed to encapsulate this concept in a bottle for her to do so. Soleil et Lune is translated from French as Sun and Moon, with the implication of providing a whiff of the lush life that a woman warrants from sun rise till dark. The range of the Soleil et Lune creations came from the carefully selected oils and essences from Grasse, France to match the seasons of our country. Get to know Soleil et Lune’s variety that airs the promise of an opulent experience.

 

Images from Soleil et Lune. Credits to the owner. 

With an exceptional fragrance, we now understood that success and being remembered are not just about the eyes, but also the nose. Visit soleiletlune.ph or seektheuniq.com to order online. Soleil et Lune is also available at Firma in Greenbelt 3.

Ben
GeekyBF.com

LIFESTYLE, TRAVEL

THE SINGLE STRUGGLE

Waking up alone – This is not new for those who have been single since birth, and to those who have been for so long. You always wonder if someone will also reciprocate or even surpass that feeling that you’ve shown for others. For most of your “all by yourself” moments, you’ll eventually get used to being alone and dating yourself all the time. Yes we have friends who tirelessly paint smiles to our faces and keep things in good vibes. Once the euphoria starts fading, you still look for that special person who will touch you from the inside. Someone who will make you realize that you are also special in his/her eyes no matter what happened.

Reality is, the sad part does not necessarily come from those silent realizations, but to those people around you. It’s hard when they label you as an overreacting person when you only hope for the best for your love life. You only operate the way you wanted to be treated by your would be partner. In their eyes, you are just a lost individual who is wasting his time being the right person. As I try to open myself to others, they told me that they’ve been there. With the hurt that they’ve experienced, they tried to take me on-board to the “misery loves company” bandwagon. For them, attention and love from others is to be purchased – literally. They tend to call themselves mature for outgrowing any of the real emotions associated in truly loving someone, and accepting that all of us are meant to be treated like crap. In short, having someone love you for who you are is a hoax for them.

I honestly felt sorry for how they feel. When you are just crossing your fingers to find the right one, it is inevitable to stumble upon them who aim to bring people to a state of melancholy. As they tried to educate me for their so-called “standard of living”, it slowly made me question my significance as a human being. Should I just be like them? Enjoy sleeping around and define love as collective one-night stand experiences from strangers? Am I really made to be taken for granted?

With all these negative feedback, I decided to finally shut my ears to them and start to surround myself with positive people who can lift my spirits. Their toxic advices are just too much for me to handle. While drafting this post, I wrote down my thoughts to their words, and to help others who have encountered this type of people.

 

“Maturity is not about tolerating the wrong things that others are doing to you. It’s about knowing how you should be treated and forgiving yourself for allowing  someone to take advantage of you.”

“We all deserve all the respect and love in the world. We are all worth it.”

“Learn whom you should lend your ears. Always stick to people who know how to empathize and can give you a nice tap on your shoulder.” 

The right person will freely and willingly reciprocate the love that you are ready to give.”

They have their life experiences. We draw our own path and our lives should not depend on what they have encountered.”

“Single” can indeed be a powerful word. Its definition can expand from the pain to something that is full of promise. Surviving the single life might be tough. Remember, behind all the bitterness is an independent you whose shine should never be dulled. You don’t need to prove them anything. Just continue being you who has a positive outlook in your single status. When we find true love someday, it will definitely create and counteract echoes to what they have expected us to be.

Photos taken in Somerset, Alabang.

Ben
GeekyBF.com

The Greenery, Bulacan
FASHION, LIFESTYLE, TRAVEL

365 DAYS OF SUMMER FEAT. THE GREENERY, BULACAN

Being born and raised in a tropical country, having a winter wonderland is a common fantasy of someone who is used to a sunny and rainy disposition. The geographical location of the Philippines – situated in the middle of the equator would make you realize that you have to kiss your frozen dreams goodbye in your homeland.

Despite of this, the confirmation of the sun’s presence even on the seasons where other countries are freezing cold has been welcomed with open arms with our swimwear on. You can get a tan anytime of the year and counteract the heat wave with a splash.

As a sun worshiper, we always make it a point to drive to the nearest resort and take a dip on the pool under a sunny afternoon. We found ourselves in The Greenery, Bulacan on a hot weekend. It was a total detox having the sun glare on their crystal blue infinity pool, facing a wide lake. While some of my friends are covering up with layers of clothing for that extra warmth, the palm trees and the white cottages in The Greenery gave us the perfect opportunity to strip down and show the goods that we have been working for over a year.

A major relief from being constantly covered by corporate clothes on the majority of my existence. Sunburns over frostbite? I’m willing to give the latter a try maybe in the future. But the former can provide an equal enjoyment, a sort of starting the year with kisses from the sunlight.

Ben
GeekyBF.com

LOREAL PARIS TRUE MATCH SUPER BLENDABLE CONCEALER
FASHION, LIFESTYLE, MALE VANITY, REVIEWS

REVIEW: L’OREAL PARIS TRUE MATCH SUPER-BLENDABLE CONCEALER

Everyone has encountered bad skin problems in some point of their lives. Whether it’s a clogged pore that morphs into acne, or even the evidence it left in the form of blemishes and scars can emphasize your self-consciousness. It’s a sort of survival thing. You need to adapt and master every trick to camouflage such unwanted skin condition. For a typical guy, wearing a concealer or the mere fact of owning it (and other cosmetics that are traditionally for the ladies) may not be the sexiest thing around. But we have to be man enough to put a straight face forward even with a little help from the women’s vanity kit.

For this post, we will be reviewing a concealer brand in the market which I have been using for the past 5 years. The L’Oréal True Match Super-Blendable Concealer along with the other cosmetic variants under the True Match Super Blendable range claims to “precisely match your skin’s tone and texture…”.  It has a lot of color range which is a big kudos knowing that all ethnicity comes in different skin colors and undertones.

The shade we have is in W4-5 shade and comes in a 0.17 oz size tube which is very handy. It can easily fit at any pouch you carry everyday or even in your pocket when you attend an event. It retails for 400 php but the brand always go on seasonal sale with a nice price cut.

The tube is designed with a micro tip applicator to ensure that you get just the right amount of product that depends on the needed coverage. As we swatch its content, we can see that it has a thick consistency and heavily pigmented with yellow tone to counteract discoloration. It blends easily with your finger and settles smoothly on top of my olive Asian skin. That struggle part is that you have to blend the product immediately since it dries quickly especially in you are in an air conditioned room.

The concealer was tested on my 2 day old zit and dreaded dark circles on my bare face (left photo). The second photo is after the application on the problem areas. It did an excellent job on fulfilling its promise of providing an accurate match to my skin. It provides a brightening effect to the under eye area and zaps the redness on the pimple, making it less visible from afar. From my experience, the product stayed for atleast 10 hours within a normal office environment. It did however settle on some fine lines beneath my eyes. It may be due to the fact that I have applied a lot of product (my dark circles are a total bad a**) and skipped the eye cream. From a close up view, the product may appear a little powdery on top of your skin but this can go unnoticed in a normal interaction distance.

PROS

  • Super affordable and handy
  • Can last for atleast 10 hours
  • Deep pigmentation for a drugstore brand.
  • Naturally matches skin tone with a lot of color options.
  • Ultra concealing power for blemishes

CONS

  • Powdery texture under the eye with minor caking / creasing.
  • Quick drying property
  • Microtip applicator can be unsanitary.

FINAL WORDS

This concealer is a great alternative for guys (and girls) who opt to hide their imperfections for that natural clear-skin look without breaking the bank. The heavy and skin matching tint shows how good the product is even in small amounts. It can be one of the daily essentials on a busy guy’s vanity kit which provides an excellent coverage.

Recommend applying eye cream before hand and proceed with minimal application, and then add more if necessary.

Ben
GeekyBF.com

LIFESTYLE

THE GOOD SIDE OF BEING A TOURIST

Photo by yours truly

After earning my college degree, travelling has become one of my top priorities in my checklist. Just the thought of seeing the world outside my hometown, and gazing through the clouds from the plane window would blaze adrenaline to me and my peers. As we discover places, we were introduced to the “traveler” and the “tourist”. The former pertains to exploring the world with very little to no preparedness at all. They are the backpackers admirable for their brave heart and enthusiasm. On the other hand, the “tourist” is the one who has the list of everything-on-hand, from destinations, essentials, clothing and the like. In short, this is the total opposite of being a traveler. But on the contrary of this being frowned upon by some, being a tourist has a perks of its own.

WORRY AND STRESS-FREE VACATION

If you’re the type that you want to rest your brain from the act of sudden hassle or the mere fact of minimizing physical exhaustion, a well-planned vacation with pure relaxation is for you. You just have to sit back and let your allocated money and itinerary do their job. No need to be anxious on how to go from point A and B, cause everything from the time you set foot out of the plane ‘till you go home is already taken care of.

ORGANIZED JOURNEY

Getting lost is okay sometimes. But it also entails you to lose time to see a lot of important spots because of being lost. Most of your precious time will then be allotted to wandering around and asking locals for direction. As much as possible, we want to maximize our holidays with meaningful events, not with those stories of scratching our heads and asking where to go. For us young professionals, our time for leisure is at the mercy of our approved vacation leave(s) in the midst of our busy schedules. That is why every tick of the clock is considered a luxury, not unless if you have all the time and money in the world.

OPPORTUNITY TO TAKE GOOD FEEDS

You don’t always have to trust luck when it comes to taking OOTD photos for your Instagram. Being ready can yield you the same results similar to those boasted to the unplanned ones. Why expect and wait for that photo-worthy location if you can actually identify some before your vacation? Doing your homework on the best spots and its complementing outfit can bring you home a memory card full of snap options – Talk about food for your feeds!. After all, it is our happiness to add a “portfolio” to our memories and experiences.

RELIEF AFTER A LONG DAY

Who says you can’t have comfort while you make memories? Reality is, you don’t have to sacrifice comfort for the sake of your trip. A voyage will not be tarnished if you would trade a tent or hammock to a nice bed. You can still enjoy some of the things that a traveler would do, just with the added perks of recharging your mind and body for the next day’s activity.

PLEASURE AND RELAXATION

Travelers are always ready to take the plunge. They are delighted by climbing mountains and continuously crave for adventures that require a lot of physical activities. However, there are others who would want to escape reality and look for a moment to unwind and lighten up. These usually involve a trip to museums; visiting renowned spots and restaurants; or simply getting a tan in the beach.

BUDGET FRIENDLY

You might be in question when you see this. In your mind, you are thinking that a traveler is synonymous to expanding the potential of a small amount of money into something meaningful. The few penny and planning method has been tried and tested, but expect to shed some cash in some instances that you are unable to find a vehicle to hitchhike, or a cheap motel to spend the night, especially if you are really craving for that rest after a day full of activities. Mind you, last minute or on-the-spot booking may come with a golden price tag.

I’m not saying that you won’t be immune to a sudden break-a-bank moment. Chances are slim if you have everything settled and prepared beforehand. There are hotels/inns offering a discounted rate when you book ahead of time. Travel agencies also offer a nice transportation service that can take you around places or even transfer you from one island into another.

Ben
GeekyBF.com